Couples Therapy
Is your relationship struggling?
Are you and your partner arguing or fighting all the time?
Is your communication with each other riddled with criticism, defensiveness or personal attacks?
Have you drifted apart and are not sure how to get back to the close connection and intimacy you once shared?
Are you trying to repair things after an affair or a breach of trust has caused havoc on your relationship?
Maybe it’s the pressure of children that have affected the balance of your once satisfying relationship. Sometimes big factors begin to affect your trust for each other. Sometimes the trust begins to unravel which can lead to shutdown or hurt or loneliness. Are you walking on eggshells to avoid certain topics, has communication decreased or completely stopped, and opinions are not being heard or understood? You may start to feel hopeless, unsure if there is a way forward to fixing the issues you face.
Is it time for help?
Are you ready to work with a trained couples therapist who can show you how to restore the romance and connection you used to have? Would you like to have help to learn skills and tools to improve communication and understand each other better?
All Relationships Have Bumps.
The connection we have with our romantic partners is one of the most important ones in our lives. This relationship can be a source of joy, security, and support when it is healthy and functioning well. However, if a relationship is experiencing some turbulence, it can cause great pain—especially if one partner is forced to confront some aspects of themselves that may be worsening the situation, such as interrupting, not listening well, substance abuse or a trauma of some sort. These things can place extra stress on a marriage or relationship. It’s difficult to examine our own behavior sometimes and we may not even realize that we need to do some growing and changing as well. It is easier to blame all of the issues on our partner, but it is not always productive.
Sometimes, life circumstances can be the source of relationship struggles, such as a midlife crisis; life transitions or raising a family. When facing this type of uncharted territory, we may need help to learn new communication or conflict management skills to handle these new challenges in your relationship.
In the United States the statistics on marriage and divorce are daunting.
43% of first marriages end in divorce,
60% of second marriages end in divorce,
And, a whopping 73% of third marriages end in divorce.
However, having a successful and satisfying marriage or relationship is completely within your grasp. Therapy can help you learn the skills to fortify your relationship so it is a source of happiness and stability. Growing a healthy marriage can be difficult at times, but learning to take time for ourselves together, cultivate a strong, loving relationship can be lots of fun at times and is very rewarding.
When you are ready to focus on your relationship, the therapists at the Place for Counseling are here to support you and your partner grow and flourish.
What to Expect in Couples Therapy
At the Place for Counseling our goal is not to solve your problems for you, but to help you and your partner learn more effective communication skills in order to solve your own problems. By establishing clear goals for the counseling process and identifying your values and principles, we will work with you to restore your relationship to where it once was or maybe even stronger than before.
Couples counseling can help your relationship grow stronger than ever.
At the Place for Counseling, it is our goal to help you both work together as a team to create the relationship you want. We believe that in order for this to happen, there must be some tradeoffs and compromises for each party.
Couples therapy works well when you set goals to change yourself, rather than to change your partner. You can’t change another person, and your partner can’t change you. You chose each other for a reason. Your chances of a successful relationship are best when you both commit to being the best partner you can be. Moreover, developing a healthy attitude toward conflict can help your relationship as well. Disagreements are unavoidable, but the way you weather them can strengthen your bond in the long run. We can show you the skills to do just that.
With counseling, you can learn from your past, adapt to new conditions, restore lost intimacy, and take action when you hit proverbial speed bumps. You may be feeling stuck right now, but this is not the end.
You May Have Some Concerns About Couples Therapy
What if the therapist takes my partner’s side?
A good couples counselor remains impartial. At The Place for Counseling our couples therapists are trained in helping you heal your relationship. Our goal is not to take anyone’s side or shame someone for being “wrong.” Your therapist will create a safe, nonjudgmental space for both of you to freely express your thoughts, concerns, and fears.
What if our problems are too overwhelming or other even more painful issues come up?
It is true that couples counseling may lead to an awareness of other issues that you and your partner might be struggling with. However, when the focus is to learn how to bring positively and closeness back into your relationship, many times facing all of the issues in a safe place with a trained guide it essential to a stable relationship.
At the Place for Counseling our therapists provide caring, compassionate, and confidential guidance to support you.
You Have the Power to Make Your Relationship Better.
We are here to help!
Relationships and marriages are hard and they take work to nurture and grow strong. Having guidance through the process of strengthening your relationship and learning to care for it in a healthy way can make all the difference.
With therapy comes greater understanding and some control over the choices you make in your relationship. Our compassionate therapists are here to help you in this journey.
Please reach out with any questions you may have. We offer a 20 minute free consultation if your would like to meet with your therapist first to see if it is a good fit.
